Failing to fully navigate through adolescence means never truly breaking away into adult roles.
10 Things Teens Won’t Learn In School That They Need to Hear at Home
Life is hard, and that’s okay. The older you get, the more you’re going to realize that life can be hard. Don’t run away from that. Don’t look for a way to avoid it. It’s okay. Life can be tough, and you’re equipped to deal with it. Easy is boring anyway.
Dear Lost 20 Year Old (And His Parents),
20-year-olds are in the thick of identity formation, peeling away from the past, and breaking out into a new future.
Alone Time
I don’t get a lot of time alone. I’m a doctor, an owner of two clinical practices, a Mom, wife, dog person, and as such, there’s always someone around. On the rare occasion I’m alone in my home, there are three dogs and a barrage of text messages barking for my attention. Someone needs a call back about a medication interaction; someone needs a scratch behind the ears.
As rare as it is, alone time is a great value.
Alone time reminds me who I am
When no one else needs me to be anything in particular, alone time helps me check in to see who I am at my essence.
Alone time allows me to check in on myself
I spend a lot of time, like most busy moms, like most physicians, checking in to see what someone else needs from me. A little time by myself lets me check to see: What do I need from me?
Alone time is spiritual
Being alone puts me back in touch with all-important feelings of meaning and belonging, a feeling of never truly being alone. Even in a crowd, people can feel lonely. But being alone without feeling lonely is a wonderful feeling, indeed.
Alone time is quiet
My life, like most people’s, is usually pretty noisy. A few moments alone provide much needed quiet.
Alone in the office is great for focused work
When no one needs to interrupt, and I can dig deep into detailed tasks, alone time is a rare gem for productivity.
And then I start to miss the noise
Absence makes the heart grow fonder when it comes to the constant chatter and clatter of noise.